Couples counselling in Hackney & Shoreditch

Most couples who come to me are not short of things to argue about. What they are missing is a way to understand why the same arguments keep happening, and what each of you is really trying to say.

Rather than just managing conflict, we look at the invisible patterns driving it: what each of you brings from your own history, how you protect yourselves, and where intimacy gets lost. The aim is real change in how you are together, not a referee.

Sessions are 50 or 90 minutes, in person at Leonard House in Shoreditch or online.

Couples navigating persistent conflict, gridlocked patterns, communication breakdown or difficulties with intimacy, whether you have been together a few years or many decades, married or not.

Couples therapy is not only for relationships in crisis. People come to me when:

The same argument keeps coming back, however you try to resolve it.

Trust has been broken by an affair or a secret, and you want to understand what happened.

You are deciding whether to stay together, and want to make that choice clearly.

A baby, a move, a loss or a new job has changed everything between you.

One or both of you is neurodivergent, and you keep missing each other.

You have drifted into living side by side, and intimacy has gone quiet.

You don’t need to agree on what the problem is before you come. Working that out together is part of the work.

Couples often notice that arguments become shorter and less frightening, that they can say difficult things without it turning into a fight, and that they understand where their partner’s reactions really come from. Some find their way back to each other. Others separate with more respect and less damage. Either way, you leave knowing yourselves better.